Continuing with comments on “What’s love got to do with it?” on Accept No Substitutes, I move on to the religious aspects:
3. Religious: The mystical joining of individuals, typically as ordained by the appropriate deity or deities, surrounded by ceremonies and prayers, carrying with it various supernatural risks and allowing certain benefits.
In the United States, at least, the State has no right to dictate religious beliefs to anyone. The most it can do is prohibit practices that are harmful to others (the State outlaws human sacrifice no matter how willing the victim nor how important the sacrifice is thought to be). If a religious institution contends that homosexuality is a grave sin, well, that’s up to them. Offensive as it may be to others, such beliefs cannot be prohibited.
(Not in the United States and not at the moment, anyway. In Canada, a Christian pastor was enjoined from ever again expressing anything disparaging about homosexuality, in public or even in private email, on pain of being held in contempt of court and fined or imprisoned. He was also ordered, again on pain of being held in contempt of court, to preach a sermon which according to his beliefs was utterly false and harmful to the souls of those who heard it. Although I disagree with his belief, I find that sort of assault on someone’s freedom of conscience to be absolutely reprehensible.)
Suppose same-sex marriage is legalized. Does that mean religious authorities would be compelled to officiate at rites for same sex couples? No, that would be an assault on their freedom of conscience. It is already the case that the State says two people may legally marry and religious authorities say they may not (last I heard, Catholic priests would not officiate at the marriages of divorced individuals, unless the prior marriage were annulled in the Church). In that case, the two people find another religious official (maybe in another sect) or get married before a justice of the peace.
I think it will be hard, really, for Christian sects to come around on same-sex marriage. Mephistopheles mentions that some feel “anything that prevents a same-sex couple from marrying is the equivalent of anti-miscegenation laws”, and the Christian churches did come around on miscegenation — hardly any of them still object — but I really don’t think same-sex marriage is entirely comparable to the miscegenation issue. The Bible doesn’t clearly come out and say “miscegenation is sinful” so believers in the Bible could, however reluctantly, accept that miscegenation was okay in the eyes of God and that prior objections really were just based on prejudice. The Bible does clearly come out and say that homosexuality is sinful, more than once, and I really don’t see how believers in the Bible could realistically turn around and say that objecting to same-sex marriage is really just a matter of prejudice.
It’s not to say that such a change is impossible — Christians don’t abide by all of the restrictions in the Bible, such as not eating pork — but I think it will be hard for the religious establishment to change its view on this. I think the most one could expect is the sort of “render unto Caesar” attitude that Catholics have toward divorce: “Yeah, the State has this institution of same-sex marriage, and it has legal effects in the eyes of the State, but we don’t recognize it as valid.”
I express no opinion about most religions other than Christianity, as I don’t pretend to be very familiar with them, but I do think it will be even harder to Muslims to come around since in many parts of the Middle East homosexuality is still a capital crime, based on passages of the Koran, and it would be even harder for Muslims to say, “well, it looks like we are required to kill anyone who practices homosexuality, but really it doesn’t mean that.”
I don’t think changes in the law are going to have any immediate beneficial effects on the religious view of homosexuality, and indeed I can see changes in the law actually hardening the religious view. It appears to me that that is already happening (”We’re under siege! Our age-old beliefs and values are under attack by the evil atheists! Cling to them more tightly!”) In the long run, I think most Christian sects will come around, but the long run is a long time, and even then there will be hold-outs. So, regardless of the law, people who are hurt and angry because their religious authorities call them sinful and refuse them the marriage sacrament are going to remain hurt and angry for a long, long time.